In front of God this kind of folks will be held to account for remaining involved in this kind of atrocious acts and probably also for being unfair to the partner by doing so.. "dealing with it since it is out there" I experience sorry for you that you have been normalised to these ill acts and that not only do you sense no shame in admitting it but you dont even conceal the sin due to the fact you dont even feel to regard it as a sin anymore!