But if a person tries to management you, criticizes you, abuses your generosity, or delivers unwelcome drama or damaging influences into your existence, it is time to re-appraise the friendship. The most crucial excellent in a friendship is the way the connection makes you experience-not how it appears on paper, how alike you appear to be on the floor, or what other people think. We require enable. Not in a damsel-in-distress way.