Of program the 'lover' does not see the 'beloved' as an 'object', given that that indicates mere body for sex, or some other objectification of transitory values (spouse, companion, ex, corpse), but all the identical they do see the 'beloved' as a bigger item, generally by means of glimpsing their own dissolution in the other, which is then held on to just after the minute has passed as some warm fuzzy item conceived of as becoming a thing.