Of program the 'lover' does not see the 'beloved' as an 'object', because that indicates mere human body for sexual intercourse, or some other objectification of transitory values (spouse, companion, ex, corpse), but all the same they do see the 'beloved' as a bigger item, commonly by means of glimpsing their possess dissolution in the other, which is then held on to just after the moment has handed as some heat fuzzy object conceived of as.