This is not this kind of a big deal if the little ones are very well behaved, but a lot of a bride and groom have shunned a mate that allowed their uninvited toddler to wail his way by means of the ceremony. More often, however, you can expect to have to have individual musicians for the ceremony and the reception. The collective fizzled out, even so, and O’Rourke has reported he turned "the most depressed I’ve ever been in my lifetime.